Taking care of your private parts and sexual health is Beauty.

Taking care of your private parts and sexual health is Beauty.

Your private parts' beauty is one of the most important ones to talk about. Please, let’s leave aside your tradition, your religion, your beliefs. This part of your body is shared with other people, and very important people…your partners.

I was born with a very hairy pussy and dark dark hair. Pfff. As I already mentioned before my mom didn't let me shave my legs until I was 15 so I guess I don't need to stretch off how was it for my private parts.

Through the years I had to learn to “beautify it” myself. I started just trimming it with scissors (if you do try this, please make sure you use a mirror and do not hurt yourself). Then, I went for shaving the sides of my bikini area (when I started using bikinis). However, I don't like the way the skin looks after a few years of shaving this delicate and so much seeing part of the body anatomy.

I remember in my growing years, during our yearly vacations to the family’s condo in Acapulco, seeing women on the beach with dark black spots around their bikini area due to years and years of shaving. You could tell it was because of shaving after so many years. I learned from it and rather than taking the same road, I started waxing.

At first, it was just a regular bikini wax (on the sides only) at the specialty spa. After years of going with the same girl, we decided to start Brazilian bikini wax, which works great as you live in the same place and your “girl” doesn’t change jobs or careers, hopefully, you will have that luck. Because this is definitely a service you don’t want to get done by just anybody that claims to be a specialist.

In my years traveling it's been almost impossible to find a good wax girl everywhere where I go, and I actually learned, that this skill, if they are not good, is not like hair.. “oh it will grow back”. No, they really can hurt you. And a wound in such a sensitive area, can be very difficult to heal, will take more time than usual and if not treated properly can really become a bigger problem for your sexual and your partner's sexual health. The same applies to shaving as a regular method to groom your private parts, and this applies to men and women equally. Please know what you are doing, make sure your “girl or guy” has years of experience and knows what they are doing. I personally, learned the painful way.

Yet, that did not take away the importance of taking care of grooming this so hidden and important area. I would absolutely recommend laser and getting rid of it.

You don’t want to make it all Brazilian (all the hair from your vagina to the end of your ass)?. That is fine, it is your choice. But I guess if there would a discussion of the most hated and horrible hairs in the body (ass hair) would be on the top 3 for sure. And most guys won’t tell you, but it is disgusting.

I wonder how many girls don’t get called after the night they put out and think is because they put out on the first date or something like that when is actually because their private area was not well-groomed or had a smell… I have talked as openly with men, partners, and friends about this subject as directly as I am writing this for you now… They feel embarrassed to tell you. So I am going to do it so.

Leave aside your religion, beliefs, or any of their idea stopping you from getting hands in taking care of your pubic hair. Besides, it will be our secret #2.

I personally not only do Brazilian wax, (yes, still, I have not done laser yet but one day I will) and I decided to decorate my vagina with a beautiful piercing and a “pubic hairdo” to come with it. As taking all my pubic hair out is not my thing. As I said, it is your choice. Just make sure you groom it in your style, but take care of it. Always. Check your area, your smell, ingrown hair, pimples, or anything, just check yourself. Know yourself. Know your private area very well. Sexual health is beautiful. Even if you are not in a relationship. These teachings are about that relationship with yourself. So yes, you are in a relationship, with yourself!. Please ALWAYS be presentable like if you are going on a date with your crush.

Did that make the point?

Regular doctor checkups for girls and guys. This is one of the most forgotten and less taken care of parts of our health, and it is so important, that several key components of our life are based on our sexual health.

Do I even have to talk about hygiene? Everyday hygiene?

I need you to check yourself regularly if your private parts smell, if you sense something different or going on, act on it. The faster the easiest. The longest you take, the more visits to doctors or medicine you might need, it can even be signed to other sicknesses like kidney or bladder problems. So please add this to your everyday calendar. Until it becomes something that you are aware of and check regularly. Like a daily shower, and breast check-up for the ladies. Add these 2 to your daily calendar.

The younger you are the more vulnerable you are to sexual diseases, you know why? Because you don’t care about protecting yourself, you think they are not real, they don’t exist... WRONG!. The people that do not use or know how to protect themselves are the ones that are vulnerable. It does not matter your age, sexual preference, or anything else as much as how much you protect yourself.

Once you reach certain adult age, you will be aware of how many people out there are infected and how fast and easy it is to become a statistic yourself.

Most reasons for not educating yourself on sexual health are

Embarrassment to ask.

Nobody to actually ask and talk about with.

The person you can ask is not even the right mentor, not his topic. Please make a real logic assessment when you are searching for help on this or any subject.

I hope you read this while you are not a statistic and I guide you toward a long-lasting great healthy sexual life. Because after all, having sex is one of the biggest beauty hacks of all time, well, not really having sex, ACHIEVING AN ORGASM IS… Beauty hack #8. Most people will argue with me right now, that actually having sex with a partner is what is the real beauty hack, due to the hormones released. And yes, I would agree with them, that works too. Now, due to personal experience. I can actually put on writing, just achieving the orgasm does make the cut. Haha. Get that vibrator going babe and make yourself come, without shame, as much as you want, as much as you need until you feel satisfied.

I know, it might go against your religion, age, or belief or you might be thinking is wrong. I won't push you into this. Now, if you already have a sexual life….

Pay a doctor and go for all your questions make sure you know how to protect yourself, how to put on a condom right, pregnancy, diseases, all of it. On this topic, I would not suggest the internet as there are so many pseudo doctors out there with an opinion and nobody regulating the veracity of the Internet information out there. So, please, invest in this and visit a doctor.

Just a few tips on sexual health that I have collected through the years, obviously, as I said before, nothing will be better than sitting and talking with your own doctor about your own particularities and addressing your own concerns or just regular questions, but this general’s, I think are basics that any person at any age could find useful…

-Do not share sex toys or lubricant bottles with other people. Wanna play? Buy your own. Always wash them after use and store them. Changed partners? Toss those into the garbage and buy new ones.

Believe it or not, as an expert dater and single girl, haha. I carry my own baggie of goodies if I go on a date, condoms, the ones with flavor and regular ones and some big condoms in case get lucky with one of those. Haha. and my little bottle of lubricant to prevent condoms from breaking and obviously for a more pleasant experience.

And this might sound funny, I expect to see the same from them, if I see that my new “partner” does not take care of his sexual health as intensely as I do, I make a note of that.

Then they don't want to use a condom. I take note of that.

I feel safe when I get to their house for the first time and see actually plenty of condoms to use. I feel safe. And there is more chance that eventually I will feel safer in an unprotected relationship because I know they care as much as I do about their health and well-being.

I use to feel embarrassed buying condoms until I met people with sexual diseases. Now that is more embarrassing and I think about that every time I need to make that stop at the pharmacy.

I also think about that every time a guy makes it a deal not to use a condom. Beware. I am not the one to tell, this statistic you can google. How many chances do you have of getting a sexual disease every time you agree to do this.

I can resume for you. It is scary.

Besides, it is only at the beginning. If the relationship is meant to last, eventually, you will have an unprotected and healthy sexual relationship with this person. and meanwhile, you have to protect yourself at all costs. You and your health are more important than a horny moment. Please be strong. Use protection until you know you are ready and safe to go ahead.

Basics?

Women, please make sure you schedule visits with your doctor every 6 months for your regular and breast checkups.

Find the right lubricant for you and use it! Lubricated condoms during sexual relations have fewer chances of breakage.

Do not use just one condom for long periods of time. It is ok to change it 2 times during one long sexual relationship.

Always use the restroom and pee after a sexual relationship with or without preservatives used.

Check your partner's parts when you are going to have sex with somebody new for the first time. Most sexual diseases are noticeable, be informed!

Woman! Choose your birth control. Do not let them be part of this important decision. Be in control of it, do not play luck with this, and remember how important and how much hormonal changes affect your overall beauty and health.

Just birth control could be another book chapter...

With love.

Jay Rodriguez

The Beauty Designer